Starr Market between 330PM and 700PM, any day of the week, Ojai CA

Every time at the store, 5ish in the early evening, the liquor isle has half a dozen women, buying their single serving food for the night and bottle of liquor. Usually wine, by what I observe at the checkout line. And in groups of 3 or more, several bottles. So that’s their norm, food for one and a bottle to wash it down.

From what I see, most single women over 30 are flat out alcoholics. Or on the road to becoming one. Which means they can no longer perceive reality correctly and will make very bad mistakes in their choices ABOUT EVERYTHING. Never fails.

330PM to 7PM, the liquor isle, always single women, no ring on the finger, selecting the night’s booze. And they go for really trendy booze titles that fit whatever thing they are into, which distillers are branding for now. Men distillers. They know they can pitch all kinds of labels for the same swill, because women will respond to that.

And of course..."It's only wine" because she's had a hard day. Apparently, every day is a hard day, living on the edge. Most are office employed, divorcees and angry or involved in school, getting the living wage and done deal pension. Because anger has that effect upon the face. It really does. Whether she be 16 or 56, it shows.  It's one of the ways spirit affects the body, to reveal one's inner state. Joy, kindness, and compassion reveal on the face as much as cold heart, anger, and vengeance does.

This, women do not know. Or maybe they do, stressing so much over makeup as they do, hiding the real them, from the projected them. Some women simply want to be pretty. Most are hiding the damage, and bitchy, angry left has done to the body they wear.

And of course, it's all in the eyes. The eyes reveal the sweetness of the heart - man or woman. A man can be alpha, tough, courageous and a leader and still show tender compassion in his eyes without looking like a pansy. History records many such examples.

The same for women. Her best attribute is not her body, though that is a sell point when she's 20 something. It's her kind, feminine, and thoughtful eyes, without the heavy damage of anger, revenge, and meanness that destroys her looks. As it does most quickly.

And liquoring up every night doesn't help any. It only makes matters worse. In fact, alcohol acts as a multiplier, accelerating the damage very often beyond repair.

A word to the wise.

DB

Hate and rage makes for UGLY. Women, be what men can love. Not something repulsive. And men, be the strength without ego you MUST BE, as she deserves no less than your very best.